Freedom and Stability

In a pure dualism, there only exists extremes; but in a world where "balance" has more virtue, the integration of the two can be more valuable even in our daily life.


When I realized that the freedom was the one I have truly desired for a long long time, I also asked myself, "do I really want it at any cost?" And the answer was clear, "of course not!"


What I want through the practice of NLP or Ericksonian hypnotherapy is just the integration of two apparently distint ideas, behaviors, values, or whatever you call. The important thing to me is the fact that I was fascinated by one idea while keeping my desire to maintain something totally different. Does this mean I am not consistent? Well, maybe not. Maybe something a lot deeper than that.


We humans are not that simple. Why abused children still love their parents? Why losing traders still want to take positions in the market while saving even a penny in their daiily life? Some may come up with seemingly logical explanation, but I don't care how good they sound. What I care about is the consistency in the person's body and mind. And my perspective is that as long as consistency exisits, there must be something important to them. Otherwise, why do they still want to keep it?


Maybe the interpretation of a word is quite different from that of others, but once again, who cares? To me, freedom can definately coexist with stability. And why is it so? Because I said so.


If I feel consisten when saying freedom and stability can live together, that is the reality to me, even if some other people may think those two values collide with each other.


So, the key in my life is, as long as I feel any inconsistency in some values even if I want to keep them, I just need to integrate them into something higher in value. This is the pure process. No content intended.

On our 9th marriage anniversary, I want to thank my husband for his many many lessons whose values I could finally appreciate only after taking NLP courses...