sometimes silence is a very strong psychological weapon

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日付2008年7月29日9:17
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yelling is not a good idea. it not only stresses you, it shows her that you are affected by her, and that can give her some strength against you. I think when you are angry with her, be very calm and quiet, but extremely firm. you should be a sort of not-negotiable wall for her.

do you remember the movie joy luck club? there was a scene in which the 6 year-old daughter got angry with her mother and shouted to her and said I will never play chess again. the mother was eating at the dinner table. she said nothing, didn't look at her, but continued to eat as if the daughter wasn't there. the daughter asked the mother don't you have anything to say, the mother still ignored her. the daughter walked out of the room angrily. the mother didn't talk about chess at all from that day on, but after a week or so the little girl announced that she wanted to play chess again. again the mother ignored her. this devasted the little girl because all she wanted was to get her mother to react.

sometimes silence is a very strong psychological weapon.